The problem is how to find someone else who’s interested.
The problem isn’t our comfort levels-we love each other deeply, are both comfortable with the idea that we can venture out but that we’ll always come back to each other, and generally have pretty good communication. My wife and I (both women) are now in an open marriage … at least in theory. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here.
How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column.